Sunday, October 01, 2006

Two Years.

It seems like yesterday.
My brother John.
Missed so very much.



We love to play games when we get together...be it cards, scrabble, board games...this happens to be an intense boggle competition.
I am not sure the exact date of this photo, I think is was Christmas 2003.
John is at the head of the table, myself them my sister Colleen on his left. John's best bud Jamie (casanova) and my youngest brother Tom (you've seen him before!) to his right.

It is still just unbelievable....

I had the pleasure of listening to Dr. Alan Wolfelt when he was in Windsor. When dealing with grief, he really knows his stuff. I also picked up one of his books. If you are dealing with a loss, check out his site.

Or just knit...KNIT ON!

19 comments:

Liz K. said...

Carolyn, You have my sincerest condolences over John's death. I am so very sorry. You look like you are having such easy fun in the picture. I hope it has been comforting to you to look at it.

I have a picture of my dad and I from when I was a child that has been my talisman of comfort since he died. I can't display it, but I meditate on it often. Just to remember.

It has helped me immeasurably in the 3 years since he died. It's like proof of it all.

So so sorry.

{{Hugs}}

Anonymous said...

I cannot believe that it has been two years already. It does seem like it was just yesterday. All those lazy weekends at the Strongs cottage. I do have to admit that I really miss John's interpretations of Jim Carey. John was such a great actor. It makes me laugh just thinking about it. MISSED VERY MUCH!!!! Renee and John

Laura said...

these anniversaries are so hard. i'll be thinking about you today, carolyn.

{{hugs}}

HPNY Knits said...

to lose a brother- wow. sorry to hear. {{hugs to you}} I lost my mom 3 years ago (9/29) and that's when I realised- when the going gets tough, the tough get knitting!

Sunflowerfairy said...

Peace be with you and your family. It never gets easier, does it?

Scoutj said...

That's a great picture to have. I have one similar to that with my mom about an hour before the anneurysm happened. I can't believe that was almost 14 years ago....
xoxo to you.

no-blog-rachel said...

I'm so sorry. I lost my brother about 2 years ago as well. Though I was lucky (I guess) in that it was expected so I had a chance to say goodbye.

Hugs from someone you don't know.

kmkat said...

We all lose someone close to us, sooner or later. I still miss my mom and dad, who died over 20 years ago. I'm so sorry for your loss -- we expect to lose our parents, but a sibling should be forever. {{{hugs}}}

kathy in juneau said...

Sending good thoughts to you today.

sue said...

It is so hard to lose somebody so close isnt it. My FIL died 3 yrs ago, and it is still hard, but a sibling would be in a different way. I hope that you and your family are finding a way in which to cope and I send lots of hugs and good thoughts to you.

jacqueline said...

i remember when you posted this time last year. i can't believe another year has gone by.

thinking of you.

miss ewe said...

There are no words that can ever make it right. I'm thinking of you, and I'm so, so sorry for your loss.

careb said...

i have read this with tears in my eyes, live can be so sad, i am so sorry for your lost, it is so unfair, caren

earthchick said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. Lovely picture, thank you for sharing it - and his memory - with us.

maris said...

Your brother looked like a great guy. I lost my younger brother as well, last year. It sure sucks, doesn't it!

My heart goes out to you on the anniversary of his death. It sounds like a lot of people love and miss him very much!

Heather said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Your brother sounds like he was a wonderful man.

Alison said...

What a terrible loss for your family to endure, Carolyn. I lost my stepdaughter one year ago in Iraq (she was killed in combat), and it's a terrible kind of suffering. My hope is that we are guided through life by the wonderful memories of our loved ones, and that their love for us be a comfort always.

Elena said...

How terrible it must be to lose ones brother. I lost my father five years ago and it was/is terrible. But at least he had the chance to see his children grow up... (only one of us four daughters was under eighteen at this time). I can't say but I'm soooo sorry!!

Brenda said...

My oldest sister died suddenly almost 10 (TEN!) years ago. Sometimes it feels like it was just yesterday. I can't say it gets easier, but the raw, gaping wound seems to soften with time. Of course, our family has a big hole right where she used to be that can never be filled. I'm thinking of you and your family. It sounds like you remember the good times and keep him alive with your memories and stories.